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Committed to Being Uncommitted

uncommitted relationhipsAfter a lot of painful soul-searching, my husband and I have decided that we no longer want to be married. Ironically, we have also come to the conclusion that we will not put our two young children through the inevitable anguish and displacement that accompanies divorce.· According to Robert E. Emery, professor of psychology and director of the Center for Children, Families, and the Law at the University of Virginia, divorce is more traumatic to children than the death of a parent. So what’s a couple to do?· Surely, there’s a way to keep one’s family intact and·find personal fulfillment outside of the traditional marriage.

Although experts estimate less than 1 percent of U.S. adults are in open marriages––marriages in...

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Dear Lola: A Letter to My Younger Self

School_Lunch_Programs_for_Dear_Lola_ArticleDear Lola:  Though difficult to believe, you are an inexperienced know-it-all whose view of the world is myopic at best.  And no, that is not a compliment.  The youthful, blissful ignorance you now revel in feels like a safe and cozy cocoon, but 15 years from now you will deeply regret staying inside this black box.  Over and over again, you will listen to your friends instead of your heart.  And for this, my dear, you will pay in spades.  I pray that you will...

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Is Marriage Still Relevant for Generation Y?

black_wind_blown_married_coupleThe holy sacrament of marriage is nothing to be taken lightly, yet in today’s society many people are getting married left and right. So why is it that black women are among the highest percent of women that are still single at age 40?

Books, movies, even newspapers and magazines show the statistics of professional black women not married at age 40 and up. Black women·tend to idealize female role models like Oprah for being successful and·follow her advice·on dating and relationships...

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Light Skin vs. Dark Skin: The Great Debate

LightDark“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder”, how often do young black girls hear these words from mothers, aunts, and grandmothers after being persecuted for the color of their skin? The negativity being said by other races that don’t have the experience of living in this society with such natural born prejudice towards them, have no idea how difficult it is to overcome such attacks on self-esteem.

So aside from the outside influence of such harsh realities, the naïve optimistic spirit...

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Fitness Relief Without Ruining Your Hair

Black_woman_exercising1In the contemporary world women of all ages jump through flaming hoops, in order to maintain glamour and health from inside and out. However, the media has recently deemed African American women as the leading group to be black listed with malignant statistics disclaiming our devotion to maintain general health, physical fitness and other questionable social connotations in terms of our overall “well being”.

In lieu of this reality, certain women of couleur are creating an evolved...

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