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Relationship

Chivalry is Not Dead: Learning to Let a Man Take Care of You

GaylordHotelsWhen it comes to life and dating, there are so many mixed messages black women get from various places. We are taught at a very young to be strong and self reliant.

A lot of us carry that mentality into every facet of our lives, but we are rarely taught how to be taken care of. It is foreign to most career black women who spend their lives “handling it” to allow a man to take care of them.

Black women have the hardest time learning to be independent and dependent at the same time. On one hand, we  don't want or need a man to do anything, but then we want to be taken care of emotionally.

But here’s a secret, most men want to take care of you. For them it’s their manly duty to treat a woman they like with...

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Do You Suffer from Relationship Identity Crisis? Who Are You When You Become Involved

BlackW2Women are relationship strategists. We spend plenty of time and money learning how to perform (or how not to perform) in relationships. Case in point: Remember Think Like a Man, the box office smash hit based on Steve Harvey’s book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, grossed more than $100 million worldwide. Black women we need to face the music –we love being in relationships but many of us need help on how to cultivate successful unions. Many of us may suffer from RIC, Relationship...

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Does a Strong Black Woman Make a Black Man Weak?

ABC After my best friend got a promotion, he complained to me about some of his superiors, who happened to be Black women. He felt as if they always went out of their way to disrespect him. Maybe they felt threatened, as if my friend, who is a Black man, didn't deserve his position or their respect.

Can a strong Black woman make a Black man weak? This is a question for all of us in the community to ponder. For those of us concerned about destroying false or dangerous perceptions in order to...

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Is Interracial Dating a Matter of Economics?

heidi-and-seal-and-david-and-imanAt the risk of beating a dead horse, ladies, I’d like you to consider the following when discussing the topic of interracial dating:Black men and women choosing partners outside their race is not a matter of attraction or chemistry or a taste for the “forbidden fruit.” Sometimes it’s not as deep as the manifestation of some deep-rooted psyhological complex.(Thankfully) the answer is much simpler: The joining between the races is an issue of economics above all else.

Given the fact...

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Black Women On the Down Low

BlackCoupleFor many, the increasingly familiar term, “Down Low” conjures an image of a married Black man who dabbles sexually with other men, his wife unsuspecting.  In recent years, countless magazines, blogs, radio shows and other media outlets have discussed the supposed phenomenon ad nauseam.   In 2004, even The Oprah Winfrey Show introduced millions of viewers to the controversial lifestyle, disclosing the details of what then was a little known happening.  For...

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