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Is Marriage Still Relevant for Generation Y?

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The holy sacrament of marriage is nothing to be taken lightly, yet in today’s society many people are getting married left and right. So why is it that black women are among the highest percent of women that are still single at age 40?

Books, movies, even newspapers and magazines show the statistics of professional black women not married at age 40 and up. Black women·tend to idealize female role models like Oprah for being successful and·follow her advice·on dating and relationships, yet not realizing she is not married by her accounts by choice.

As part of the Y generation, I look up to Oprah for her professional achievement, but in terms of relationships and marriage, I would rather look to my parents and grandparents who have been married since before I was born and stayed together.

Marriage is as important for young black women today·than for the generations past. However, because we live in such a changeable society, young black women of today value a loyal companion and steady partner more and more.· Nowadays, forever is not forever, it is only as long as you can both stand to be married.· If a relationship last for more than a few years, its considered an incredible feat.

Before ever deciding on a mate, many black women must·first deal with·their deep seed emotional issues --whether its been from receiving bad relationship advice·from their single mothers or dealing with the emotional baggeage from their daddy issues or pain suffered in bad relationships.

Traditionally, black women are·taught by their parents to be independent and take care of themselves. They assume that when they become successful·professionally, their physical attributes and·varied social circles will lead them to find a well rounded person just like them. In their minds they are complete. So when their dating life proves to be unsuccessful, they will tell you the·reason they cannot find “Mr. Perfect” is that there are no good men left.  This statement is so untrue, there are plenty of cultured, successful black men, but they are overlooked and treated poorly many times, by women who emotionally cannot handle a worthy man based on their ideals. But in reality many of them were never taught what a good man and relationship looks like.

If more women looked at themselves first and focused on the character a man possesses rather than her high standard checklist, then she too can find her dream man, and have her dream wedding. They would not look for  “Mr. Perfect” but “Mr. Perfect for them”.


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